In my last article, I mentioned that there were two main relationships in my life that taught me important lessons about love, but I only aquainted you with one. The first one I discussed was all about the poisonous relationship that ended up hurting me unlike anything I had ever experienced.
This next relationship, luckily, is a lot more of a joyus story. The second big relationship in my life began, oddly enough, similar to the first story; a guy who was just a friend. Right after I graduated high school, I began to work at a subway down the street from my house. It was situated in a small couldesac next to a Starbucks, so of course after a long day at work I would always go next door to get some coffee for a little pickmeup.
After a few months of working at Subway I began to get to know the people next door and they were all a great staff! One of my favorite workers from Starbucks was a guy named Marcus. He was always super friendly and in a good mood whenever I walked in there and working right next to him, we would always see each other. One day I was taking out the trash at Subway and I saw marcus out in his car smoking and he called me over to join him. We began talking about weed and other things and eventually exchanged numbers. He and I became great friends, we started hanging out all the time and even after I left subway we kept in touch. Marcus wasn’t like other guys I had been with in the past, for example, he and I hung out on several occasions where it would be just us two alone, at night, in the car smoking and there was not one time when I felt uncomfortable!
Every time we would smoke together we always had great conversation, and we talked about everything; music, smoking, family, friends, relationships, you name it. There was never a time where he made a move on me though, and I always just assumed it was because he saw me as a friend. As time went on, Marcus and I remained friends but we didn’t hang out as often until one day he texted me to hang out and I met up with him at our usual spot. He was with two of his friends and I brought some weed to smoke with them so we all sat in the car and hotboxed for hours. It was a fun night, we all talked and laughed and got super high! So after that night, Marcus and I started hanging out everyday for the next two weeks straight, and I mean EVERY day. Sometimes we would be with his friends and sometimes it was just us alone, (I always preferred when it was just us two together), but it was an everyday ritual. By the end of those two weeks I began to expect a text message or a call from Marcus everyday.
One night it was Marcus, his friend Calvin and I hanging out and we took Calvin to his house to go grab his wallet. While he was in the house Marcus and I were in the car waiting for him, just talking as usual, when out of the blue Marcus held my hand. At first I was a little confused, was he hitting on me? Or was it just a impulse moment? All I could do was smile at him and right at that moment Calvin came back into the car and we let go of each other’s hands. We continued the night like normal and then I dropped them both off. Later that night I get a message from Marcus and it says “What are you doing tomorrow? I want to see you”. So we made plans to hang out the next day after he got off of work. My friend had told me that she was house sitting for her aunt and to come spend the night with her that night, so I asked her if I could bring Marcus and she said yes, so when Marcus finished working I picked him up and took him with me to the house.
That was the first night of me and Marcus’ official relationship. We kissed that night and stayed up talking until the sun rose. He told me that he had been harboring feelings for me for a long time and that he was nervous to make a move, but that he couldn’t wait any longer. We talked about how we both valued each other’s friendship and that if we were going to try a relationship, it had to be exclusive. So from that point forward we were a couple and we still are a couple to this day! Marcus and I have now been together for a year and 2 months and although that may not be very long, it’s the longest relationship either one of us have had. It hasn’t been an easy one though, Marcus and I have faced problems just like any other couple, but in the end everything we’ve dealt with has only made our relationship stronger and being with him has taught me so much about how a girl deserves to be treated.
If I compare the two biggest relationships in my life, the one with Vincent to the one with Marcus, I see major differences between the two. Being in love with Vincent was a one way street; I wanted him so bad and I would have done anything to be with him, but I couldn’t say the same for him. Being with Marcus has taught me that when two people really love each other, they are willing to sacrifice things for the sake of each other’s happiness. I also learned that when two people are in love they will always make time for each other. Me and Marcus have only spent 5 days out of our whole relationship apart and that was the week I went to Mexico on vacation with my family. I am lucky enough to say that I get to spend everyday of my life with the man I’m in love with and I get to experience new things with him day in and day out. How many other people get that luxury?
So in summary the main things that my relationship with Marcus has taught me is: 1. Relationships come to you when you least expect them. 2. Know your worth and what you deserve. 3. If a guy wants to be with you, he will make it happen 4. If you want a good, healthy relationship you have to be willing to sacrifice things for each other.